Self Love
Posted on August 16, 2018 by Christielee
And this body is still beautiful!
I am a single mum to 4 beautiful daughters, they have completely unique personalities, They all have their own talents and each one excels in different areas in life. One thing they all have in common is me.
I am their only constant and their main role model so how I talk about myself and the language I use in front of them matters.
What’s in a name?
Posted on August 7, 2018 by Christielee
Welcome to Mum. That’s a bad word! and my very first blog entry…..quietly shitting myself over here thinking about pouring my heart out to the interwebby and definitely about to pour a wine to work up the courage to do so! I wanted to give you a bit of an idea of who I am and how we got our blog name.
Hi I’m Christielee, I’m a single mum raising 4 girls in Sydney after losing my baby’s father to suicide in December 2017.
I did not think I’d get teary......so
I didn’t haha but I am super proud of this young lady.
She has graduated yesterday and her year 6 farewell was last night, she just looked so beautiful and so truly happy!
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We’ve had a fucked up messy few years, she has loved immensely and lost some of the most important people in our lives, she has been through and been witness to or part of way more than any child her age she should have ever experienced but she has come out of it like a fucking warrior.
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She is a queen
She is a warrior
She inspires me
She is and always will be my baby girl, my mini me just with a better attitude (JUST!)
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Love you miss Aiva-Leilani and a huge congratulations to all those graduating this year xxx
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#growingup #farewell #graduation #proudofyou #proudmum #mummyblogger #aussiemums #mumofgirls #mumsofinsta #tweens #tweengirls #motherhoodrising #mumswithcameras #strongwomen #beautifulgirls #mumblog #warrior #queen #inspired
The real reason I had children!
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#parenting #parenthood_unveiled #parenthood #motherhood #motherhoodunplugged #motherhoodintheraw #kidsaresick #parentinghumor #parentingmemes #memes #humor #humour #truths #motherhoodtruths #parentingtruths #raisingkids #mumbloggers #sydneymums #mumsofaustralia #instagood #kidsarecrazy #mumstyle #mumblog #laughter #meme #parents #mumsofinsta #funny
My girls are hitting puberty and with puberty comes questions, sometimes they are regarding weight, periods, how their young bodies are changing, masturbation and sex I am open and honest with my girls no matter the question because I am a firm believer that education is empowerment!
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I want my daughters to understand that their body is their temple no matter what their size, no matter if they have cellulite, stretch marks, a pot belly, scars, back rolls, no gap thighs, whatever! -
To learn self love early on and appreciate that All bodies are beautiful no matter what society tells them, they’ll have self worth no matter what size the tags in their fucking jeans say!
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Whilst in the shower the other day one of the girls asked me a question I hadn’t been asked by them, they asked why I had no pubic hair? She explained that it was talked about at school and she was under the impression that all girls had it so why didn’t I?
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For the 1st time I didn’t want to answer, I was embarrassed by my own truth.
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I teach my girls not to do anything they do not want to, I to make choices based on what they want and not what others demand.
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I teach them that society has NO RIGHT to dictate how we live our lives, we are independent women who make decisions about our bodies & not bow down to the pressures of today’s world but The only answer I had for why I don’t have pubic hair is because men told me they didn’t like it...
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Magazines, media, society have all told women that we should be clean shaven, leg hair, underarms and vagina. We should have long hair on our heads but no hair elsewhere because they don’t like it, because it makes them uncomfortable!
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No one has ever told me I had to have a bald beaver straight out but I’ve had many a conversation with friends and partners and read many an article that ended in me feeling bad about being all bout the bush!
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So although I have no intention on letting my leg or underarm hair resemble a Vikings beard long enough to braid and I’ll always keep my koala ears (bikini line) trimmed, I’m bringing back the bush one hair at a time!
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#mumthatsabadword
Im in a mother’s group online and today I was left feeling pretty sad over a post I read, it was a mum asking if anyone threatens their little kids with Santa not coming and actually follows through?
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I was genuinely stunned by people saying that if their kids were naughty they got coal or potatoes under the tree, what in the fuckery is that?!
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Sweet baby cheeses the comments were horrendous and other parents were laughing and encouraging it, what did I Miss?
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Some had kids as young as 4 saying their kid was naughty so got potatoes from Santa and all I can think is how much of a cunt I can be as a grown ass woman especially around holidays when stress is high and they’re expecting excited kids to be able to control their emotions or risk getting fucked over by the jolly fat man himself?
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As a fucking exhausted mum I get it, I get that we make empty threats, we say shit in anger sometimes, we get to a point each day where we just say ‘fuck this shit I’m checking out, where’s the wine?! -
And things do slip out like ‘Santa is not coming now!! -
But the thought of my baby girls excitement turning into absolute heartbreak on Xmas morning because at 4 she misbehaved is too much for me to bear, maybe because of our heartbreak last year or maybe because I know that kids will be little turd burglars sometimes but I just couldn’t do it to my girls no matter how pissed I was.
I guess that’s the trouble with kids, they act like fucking kids 🤷♀️ -
I will happily find an alternative punishment that fits the behaviour at the time my kids act out instead of Santa not coming but that’s just me, maybe this is a new thing.....Is this a new thing?
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#santaclaus #santaisreal #nocoal #christmas #christmasismagical #santa #ilovechristmas #xmas #parentingblogger #mumofgirls #mumblog #mumsofinsta #icouldntdoit #kidsarekids #kidsofinstagram #mumsofsydney #holidays #children #santaiscoming #parenthood_moments #parenthood_unveiled #motherhoodunplugged #mummyblogger #aussiemums
UPDATE!!!
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So I have spoken to the school and I am happy to say that allowances have been made to take into consideration that there are children of different sexuality’s attending the school and that consent is important at this impressionable age.
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They are allowing the children to choose a partner that they feel comfortable with no matter their gender and no one will be forced to accept if asked but all kids will be included in a progressive dance like a good old ‘cotton eyed Joe hoedown’ which I’ve told Aiva-Leilani physical touch is not necessary just stand opposite and dance like nobody is watching! -
I am really happy with the outcome as everyone is happy this way, no one misses out, no one feels forced to do something against their will or that consent was negated and gender and sexuality were taken into consideration. -
Side note, if you’re on my Facebook you would of seen my ‘suspected acne’ but ‘confirmed infection’ post, happy to report my face is finally clearing up and the antibiotics are working wonders, ok maybe not wonder but I look less like a hormonal teen and more like a premenstrual 30 something year old with a really bad mum Bun and a dirty, old, ripped shirt on....
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Side note further to the original side note, my kid loves knives and she may be trying to kill me...... -
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#realparenting #feelingaccomplished #equalrights #consentmatters #mumbun #parenting #consent #adultacne #antibiotics #clearerskin #fightingthegoodfight #parentingwin #motherhoodunplugged #realmum #realandraw #mumsofinsta #mumofgirls #warriors #winning #mummabear #parentingblogger #parentblogger #mumblog #mumsofsydney #mumsinbusiness #illprotectyou
I did not think I’d get teary......so
I didn’t haha but I am super proud of this young lady.
She has graduated yesterday and her year 6 farewell was last night, she just looked so beautiful and so truly happy!
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We’ve had a fucked up messy few years, she has loved immensely and lost some of the most important people in our lives, she has been through and been witness to or part of way more than any child her age she should have ever experienced but she has come out of it like a fucking warrior.
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She is a queen
She is a warrior
She inspires me
She is and always will be my baby girl, my mini me just with a better attitude (JUST!)
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Love you miss Aiva-Leilani and a huge congratulations to all those graduating this year xxx
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#mumthatsabadword -
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#growingup #farewell #graduation #proudofyou #proudmum #mummyblogger #aussiemums #mumofgirls #mumsofinsta #tweens #tweengirls #motherhoodrising #mumswithcameras #strongwomen #beautifulgirls #mumblog #warrior #queen #inspired
The real reason I had children!
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#mumthatsabadword -
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#parenting #parenthood_unveiled #parenthood #motherhood #motherhoodunplugged #motherhoodintheraw #kidsaresick #parentinghumor #parentingmemes #memes #humor #humour #truths #motherhoodtruths #parentingtruths #raisingkids #mumbloggers #sydneymums #mumsofaustralia #instagood #kidsarecrazy #mumstyle #mumblog #laughter #meme #parents #mumsofinsta #funny
My girls are hitting puberty and with puberty comes questions, sometimes they are regarding weight, periods, how their young bodies are changing, masturbation and sex I am open and honest with my girls no matter the question because I am a firm believer that education is empowerment!
-
I want my daughters to understand that their body is their temple no matter what their size, no matter if they have cellulite, stretch marks, a pot belly, scars, back rolls, no gap thighs, whatever! -
To learn self love early on and appreciate that All bodies are beautiful no matter what society tells them, they’ll have self worth no matter what size the tags in their fucking jeans say!
-
Whilst in the shower the other day one of the girls asked me a question I hadn’t been asked by them, they asked why I had no pubic hair? She explained that it was talked about at school and she was under the impression that all girls had it so why didn’t I?
-
For the 1st time I didn’t want to answer, I was embarrassed by my own truth.
-
I teach my girls not to do anything they do not want to, I to make choices based on what they want and not what others demand.
-
I teach them that society has NO RIGHT to dictate how we live our lives, we are independent women who make decisions about our bodies & not bow down to the pressures of today’s world but The only answer I had for why I don’t have pubic hair is because men told me they didn’t like it...
-
Magazines, media, society have all told women that we should be clean shaven, leg hair, underarms and vagina. We should have long hair on our heads but no hair elsewhere because they don’t like it, because it makes them uncomfortable!
-
No one has ever told me I had to have a bald beaver straight out but I’ve had many a conversation with friends and partners and read many an article that ended in me feeling bad about being all bout the bush!
-
So although I have no intention on letting my leg or underarm hair resemble a Vikings beard long enough to braid and I’ll always keep my koala ears (bikini line) trimmed, I’m bringing back the bush one hair at a time!
-
-
#mumthatsabadword
Im in a mother’s group online and today I was left feeling pretty sad over a post I read, it was a mum asking if anyone threatens their little kids with Santa not coming and actually follows through?
-
I was genuinely stunned by people saying that if their kids were naughty they got coal or potatoes under the tree, what in the fuckery is that?!
-
Sweet baby cheeses the comments were horrendous and other parents were laughing and encouraging it, what did I Miss?
-
Some had kids as young as 4 saying their kid was naughty so got potatoes from Santa and all I can think is how much of a cunt I can be as a grown ass woman especially around holidays when stress is high and they’re expecting excited kids to be able to control their emotions or risk getting fucked over by the jolly fat man himself?
-
As a fucking exhausted mum I get it, I get that we make empty threats, we say shit in anger sometimes, we get to a point each day where we just say ‘fuck this shit I’m checking out, where’s the wine?! -
And things do slip out like ‘Santa is not coming now!! -
But the thought of my baby girls excitement turning into absolute heartbreak on Xmas morning because at 4 she misbehaved is too much for me to bear, maybe because of our heartbreak last year or maybe because I know that kids will be little turd burglars sometimes but I just couldn’t do it to my girls no matter how pissed I was.
I guess that’s the trouble with kids, they act like fucking kids 🤷♀️ -
I will happily find an alternative punishment that fits the behaviour at the time my kids act out instead of Santa not coming but that’s just me, maybe this is a new thing.....Is this a new thing?
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#mumthatsabadword -
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#santaclaus #santaisreal #nocoal #christmas #christmasismagical #santa #ilovechristmas #xmas #parentingblogger #mumofgirls #mumblog #mumsofinsta #icouldntdoit #kidsarekids #kidsofinstagram #mumsofsydney #holidays #children #santaiscoming #parenthood_moments #parenthood_unveiled #motherhoodunplugged #mummyblogger #aussiemums
UPDATE!!!
-
So I have spoken to the school and I am happy to say that allowances have been made to take into consideration that there are children of different sexuality’s attending the school and that consent is important at this impressionable age.
-
They are allowing the children to choose a partner that they feel comfortable with no matter their gender and no one will be forced to accept if asked but all kids will be included in a progressive dance like a good old ‘cotton eyed Joe hoedown’ which I’ve told Aiva-Leilani physical touch is not necessary just stand opposite and dance like nobody is watching! -
I am really happy with the outcome as everyone is happy this way, no one misses out, no one feels forced to do something against their will or that consent was negated and gender and sexuality were taken into consideration. -
Side note, if you’re on my Facebook you would of seen my ‘suspected acne’ but ‘confirmed infection’ post, happy to report my face is finally clearing up and the antibiotics are working wonders, ok maybe not wonder but I look less like a hormonal teen and more like a premenstrual 30 something year old with a really bad mum Bun and a dirty, old, ripped shirt on....
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Side note further to the original side note, my kid loves knives and she may be trying to kill me...... -
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#mumthatsabadword -
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#realparenting #feelingaccomplished #equalrights #consentmatters #mumbun #parenting #consent #adultacne #antibiotics #clearerskin #fightingthegoodfight #parentingwin #motherhoodunplugged #realmum #realandraw #mumsofinsta #mumofgirls #warriors #winning #mummabear #parentingblogger #parentblogger #mumblog #mumsofsydney #mumsinbusiness #illprotectyou
